Good girl – Bad girl

good girl bad girlI picked up a new secular sex book at my favorite thrift store this week called The Good Girl’s guide to Bad Girl Sex, written by  Barbara Keesling PhD. In the first chapter she shares that” being bad” does not mean being immoral, pornographic, behaving dangerously, demeaning yourself, or being indiscriminate with your sexual partners. “Being Bad” means loving sex,  being physically uninhibited, feeling sexual hunger, being assertive and unashamed, fully integrated and intensely orgasmic.

Isn’t it amazing how backwards we have it?

We have to give our selves permission to be “bad” in order to  thoroughly enjoy our sexuality and have confidence in who God created us to be. We have to emulate how “bad” girls act in order to realize the freedom, fun and satisfaction that God intends for us to have in our marriage bed. What if loving sex, being physically uninhibited, feeling sexual hunger, being assertive and unashamed, fully integrated and intensely orgasmic, were part of our definition of a Godly wife.

Do you believe it? Do you really believe it?

Do you live it? Do you embrace this gift of sex from God and take full advantage of it to get to know your husband and to let your husband know you? Do you reveal all of yourself, or are you holding part of yourself back?

This is not a game? We are in a battle for marriage, for families, for God, and there is no way that I could have the marriage that God intended, the intimacy, the vulnerability, the pouring out of my soul, without sex.

Your mission this week – think long and hard about your definition of a Godly wife and whether your sexuality is part of that definition. Who do you want to be? How much freedom and blessing can you receive?

And then go and have some great sex with your husband.

 

 

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  1. Ruth, you are amazing! This statement brought out my pom-poms:

    “What if loving sex, being physically uninhibited, feeling sexual hunger, being assertive and unashamed, fully integrated and intensely orgasmic, were part of our definition of a Godly wife?”

    “Do you live it? Do you embrace this gift of sex from God and take full advantage of it to get to know your husband and to let your husband know you? Do you reveal all of yourself, or are you holding part of yourself back?”

    Yes, yes and YES! And, your post makes me feel even more assertive, more confident in my desire to be uninhibited and unashamed, and most of all, “not hold back!”

    Not to be too specific (see our other interaction! ha!), but there is a specific act I absolutely, adore. It’s within the realm of everything that’s allowed, normal, etc, but at one point in my past I felt like a “bad girl” for wanting it, let alone suggesting it!

    Well, no longer I stripped that away a while back and embraced that desire, let my husband get to know ME, and this post of yours makes me feel all the more glad I did.

    Thank YOU!

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