During my women’s class Awaken Love , I ask the question, “What gets you in the mood?”
I’ve heard everything from “nothing” to “a glass of wine” to “praying with my husband” to “my husband cleaning the toilet”. There are as many answers as there are women in the world, but there is a common thread I hear over and over that husbands need to understand.
I constantly hear from women, “It gets me in the mood ….
“When my husband gives me a back rub – IF there are no strings attached.”
“When my husband takes me out on a date – IF he is not just looking for sex.”
“If my husband brings home flowers – IF there are no expectations.”
IF…. It is a game changer.
It says, “I am only doing this to get something in return”. “I am only doing this so that I can get sex.” It says “I am not doing this because I love you, but as payment.”
Payment for sex. What does that sound like?
Husbands, you need to think about the times that you love your wife extravagantly. Does it only happen when are expecting the night to end with sex?
Show your wife that you love her and think of her all the time, not just when you want to have sex. Give her lots of nonsexual touch every night, not just the night you initiate. Get home early for dinner and help with the kids every night, not just the nights you want sex. Plan dates, pray for her and love her every day, not just the day you want sex. Remove the pressure and she will begin to believe that you love all of her, not just her body. Remove the “expectation” and love your wife extravagantly all the time, and really get her in the mood.