Song of Songs 1:5-7
How right they are to adore you!
5 Dark am I, yet lovely,
daughters of Jerusalem,
dark like the tents of Kedar,
like the tent curtains of Solomon.[c]
6 Do not stare at me because I am dark,
because I am darkened by the sun.
My mother’s sons were angry with me
and made me take care of the vineyards;
my own vineyard I had to neglect.
7 Tell me, you whom I love,
where you graze your flock
and where you rest your sheep at midday.
Why should I be like a veiled woman
beside the flocks of your friends
Do not stare at me because I am dark, because I am darkened by the sun.
It kind of jumps out at you, doesn’t it?
This women who moments ago was confidently expressing her delight in his love and telling him to take her away with him instantly shrinks into herself and cries out, “Do not stare at me“.
Everything flips on a dime.
One moment, I am confidently enjoying my husband and the next, I am shrinking into protection mode because I suddenly realize just how exposed, just how raw, just how very naked I am.
Sometimes it happens because of some little comment, or look, or movement that meant absolutely nothing, but that I interpreted as rejection. And sometimes I don’t even know why it happens, but it happens. The question is not whether it happens, but whether it controls you. Does it keep you from enjoying sex with your husband? Does it keep you from allowing your husband to revel in this body God gave you? Does it provide a reason for you to push your husband away?
God gave me this body to share with my husband. My body is an amazing creation and my husband is absolutely enthralled with it. And even though “it” will happen once in a while, I choose to continue to stretch my boundaries of sharing myself.
This Week –
1. Stand in front of the mirror, and head to toe, thank God for the body that He gave you.
2. Have sex with the lights on and the covers off.
3. Have sex in front of a mirror.