LIVE THE SONG – I am faint with love

Song of Songs 2:4-5


Let him lead me to the banquet hall,
    and let his banner over me be love.
5 Strengthen me with raisins,
    refresh me with apples,
    for I am faint with love.

How many of us are faint with love, or are we instead exhausted with life?

When I first met my husband, I remember the anticipation of his lips touching mine. I remember the sweetness of his taste and the weightlessness when he took me into his arms. I was faint with love. 

But is it realistic to expect that his touch would continue to thrill me, or that his eyes could still make my heart pound? Isn’t marriage supposed to get comfortable and worn like a favorite pair of slippers? Certainly most marriages look like there is no spark left, and they are just happy to get through the day.

A lot of people might disagree, but I think our spouse is supposed to thrill us for our entire life. Proverbs 5:18-19  says  May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer – may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.

It is not supposed to get boring. We are to be captivated always… So what happens?

Kids…jobs….computer….health issues….ministry….tv….. iphones… worries…….LIFE

I think that great sex is one of the ways that we escape LIFE together. If you can shut your brain off from thinking about the next load of laundry, and trust God to get your body going, then you can go somewhere with your husband that is so intimate and holy. Great sex makes memories that are between just the two of us. Great sex is looking into each others eyes and seeing into depths of their soul. Great sex is an endless journey of mapping each others bodies. Great sex is what keeps the spark alive even through the business of kids, job loss, working too many hours and disagreements. It makes a mediocre marriage good, and a good marriage great.

This week – 

1. Spend some time with your spouse remembering your first day and your first kiss. For extra credit re enact your first date.

2. In honor of being strengthened with raisins and refreshed with apples, incorporate some food into your marriage bed… maybe whipped cream, strawberries, chocolate sauce… whatever works.

3. Flirt with your spouse from across the room with your eyes and see if you can catch their attention.

Comments 3

  1. This is exactly what I have always believed. I have been in a near sexless marriage for 17 years and absolutely hate it. We actually went 4 years without any touch at all. It was then that I decided to divorce my husband but he said and did all the right things to persuade me to stay. Our sex life feels ‘forced’. He uses his medical issues as an excuse but the medicine sits in the dresser barely touched. He has never talked about our sex life but i have or else we probably would never have sex.. He usually prefers a few drinks first and then it is just sex and he walks off. His ‘duty’ is over. I so long to be loved sexually by someone that doesn’t need alcohol to touch me. This is a major thing for me. Every day is an internal battle to keep my thoughts pure when my body is screaming. I have talked till I’m talked out. I am not going to spend my life ‘begging’ my husband for sex, intimacy and/or love. (he has not had an affair, he rarely drinks nor is he watching porn, though he did a few times during the 4 years and when he was younger). I really believe this is physiological but he will not even go there…

    • I am so sorry for what you are going through. I can only imagine how hard it has been. Praying that God would comfort you in your lonliness, that He would give you new insight into boundaries and next steps, and that He would bring people into your life to support and encourage both you and your husband. May He do a miracle.

  2. physiological ..should have been psychological . Thank you for your prayers. Life is so short, love your spouse with all you have.

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