10 My beloved is radiant and ruddy,
outstanding among ten thousand.
11 His head is purest gold;
his hair is wavy
and black as a raven.
12 His eyes are like doves
by the water streams,
washed in milk,
mounted like jewels.
13 His cheeks are like beds of spice
His lips are like lilies
dripping with myrrh.
14 His arms are rods of gold
set with topaz.
His body is like polished ivory
decorated with lapis lazuli.
How many of us really look at our husbands bodies?
I mean really look at our husbands bodies. Do you peak as he takes a shower and he lathers his body? Do you notice the strength of his arms and imagine him holding you? Do you see his eyes and get lost in them? Do you enjoy the view of his body being enveloped by your body?
In Song of Songs, she noticed everything about his body – even his polished ivory decorated with jewels. Christian women hear all the time that, “men are visual”. I think somehow women take that to mean that we will never be thrilled by the view of our naked husbands. Even though we will not be driven by our vision like our husbands, it is still important to give ourselves permission and to enjoy the sight of our husbands body.
I think these verses in Song of Songs are actually her day dreaming about her husband in very physical ways. She allows herself to have sexual thoughts in order to keep the juices flowing for when they are together. If we are to day dream about our husbands, we better first learn to really enjoy what we see. We need to look at our husbands body and be amazed by it in order to create a reservoir of memories to draw upon.
This Week –
- Open your eyes during sex and look at your husbands body, the strength in his arms and legs, the broadness of his shoulders and his “polished ivory”.
- Ask your husband to wear something to bed that will draw your eye to him.
- Tell your husband what you love about his body.
- Have a photo shoot or fashion show with your husband as the star for a change.