Recently I received a special request to write an article on vaginal intercourse rear entry positions so I am going to give it a whirl.
Rear entry used to be my least favorite position, but a lot of things have changed. So let me shed some light on some of the challenges of this position for women, adaptions that can make it more enjoyable, and why eventually it might be awesome.
Anybody that has ever seen animals mate has the position of rear entry burned into their mind. This is the position that animals use when the male decides to do his thing. There is no foreplay, no kissing, no connection. He just does it. It is hard not to associate rear entry with being used and animalistic behavior.
Some wives may assume that if a husband wants to try rear entry, it is because he does not want to see her. That he is simply using her body as a receptacle. Just because you are not face to face does not mean that you cannot create a powerful connection.
You must trust your husband enough to know that he is NOT just using your body. For most men, one of the reasons they love rear entry is because they actually love the view from that position. It may be hard to accept, but your husband loves to see the curves of your rear and your waist . He loves to watch his penis disappear inside of you. He is visually engaged with you and that should be erotic.
In the safety of marriage there is room to enjoy some of the raw sexual energy that God gave us. Sometimes it is not about the slow sensuous movement but about the pounding of bodies. Do not be afraid to express yourself through sex and get excited when your spouse expresses himself. In other words, animalistic is not necessarily a bad thing sometimes.
Some women miss the visual connection during rear entry positions. After all, a husband is watching his wife, but a wife may be just looking at the bed or the wall. Think outside of the box on this one. You can put your head down and watch through your legs. You can turn your head to catch a glimpse of your husband’s enjoyment. You can use a mirror to catch the action or you can even imagine in your head what it looks like. Engage your mind. There is a power and energy during rear entry that should get your blood pumping when you see it or visualize it.
Adaptations for Connection
It is important during rear entry positions to maintain a connection through touch. You need to feel your husband’s hands on your hips, waist or rear. You need to draw his hands to your breast. You need to even feel his thighs plastered against yours. Make the connection about more than feeling his penis in your vagina.
During rear entry position there is absolutely zero clitoral stimulation by the penis so there are two paths to consider.
- You could focus on g-spot stimulation. In the doggie position a wife can tip her hips, and lower and raise her body to adjust the angle. Remember you are aiming for the front wall of the vagina only about 1-2 inches in. The goal is for the head of the penis to firmly push across the g-spot. Slow down the in and out movement that creates friction and have him slowly explore pressure points with the head of his penis. Try focusing on the sensations created as the head of the penis pulls in and out of the entrance of you vagina. Play around and when you find something you like, follow it.
- You could add stimulation to the clitoris using your hands, his hands or a small vibrator. The added stimulation can become thunderous when combined with his pounding.
There are different variations of rear entry, each with its own flavor.
Spooning can meet the needs of a lazy morning of cuddling and can allow a husband to wrap an arm around to your clitoris, another to your breast and enclose you in his care.
Doggie style can allow infinite adjustment of angle for g-spot stimulation while giving him a stunning view. It can allow you to strain and arch as you engage your body to create tension. You can feel the strength of his hands on your hips as he melds his body to yours.
Him standing while you lean over the bed can notch up the energy even more as you feel the strength of his movement and the collapse of his body onto yours.
Rear entry is about entering into the eroticism of a husband that is thrilled by your body and that desires to consume you. You must have the confidence to trust that he would never just use your body. In other words, sex is not just physical for him – he is loving you and sharing himself with you. Don’t be afraid to figure out what makes the rear entry enjoyable for you by adding clitoral stimulation or to play around with the movement and angles to hit the right spots. Stay connected visually, and by touch. Thrill at the strength of your husband and rear entry can be a whole new flavor to enjoy.