Song of Songs 7:11-12
11 Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside,
let us spend the night in the villages.[p]
12 Let us go early to the vineyards
to see if the vines have budded,
if their blossoms have opened,
and if the pomegranates are in bloom—
there I will give you my love.
Let us go to the countryside
I love having sex in other locations, but it hasn’t always been that way.
Our family lives in California so we often travel for a week to visit. I used to fret and worry. Would someone hear us? Would they guess if we came down stairs late or slipped away in the middle of the day? Would we mess up the sheets? Sex rarely happened.
Family vacations in our miniature cabin that had sheets for doors was an excuse to take the week off of sex. I chose to focus on playing until I was too exhausted for anything else.
Besides the few times that we got away with just the two of us, I failed to take advantage of a change of scenery. I failed to grab the opportunities to make memories. I failed to seize moments to even just take my husband away with me by kidnapping him in the laundry room, or getting creative out at the bonfire, or making out in the car as we waited for our kids activities to finish.
I don’t think this passage in Song of Songs is just about planning big vacations, or even weekends away. Hopefully those will happen once in a while, and they are great when they do. I think this passage is also about watching for opportunities of coming away together – everyday – in the little things.
How many times do we miss out – do we miss connections- because we are distracted. Remember that concept of having an all day love affair and connecting through out the day? That means we have to watch for opportunities to connect – not just in bed when it is time to go to sleep. We have to take our spouse away with us – even if it is just in a closet to escape into each other’s embrace for a moment.
This Week –
- Grab your spouse when he least expects it – in the closet, the laundry room, the bathroom – and give him a treat he will not soon forget.
- Take your spouse away to the country side – if the weather is warm, go for a walk in the woods and connect – if it’s cold, park your car near a beautiful view and connect. Now I am not saying you have to have sex outside. If you are assured that you are in a private place and that’s what you want to do, then go for it. You could just make out, or enjoy a little tantalizing prelude – you decide – but do something to actually connect physically.
- Take your spouse away by simply having sex in a different place of the house than you normally do