I am a big fan of Dr. Juli Slattery because she does not shy away from God’s truth. Melanie and I were given the opportunity to review her new book, 25 Questions You’re Afraid to Ask about Love, Sex and Intimacy. So here goes, our first official book review!
Juli’s book gracefully answers 25 of the most common questions she is asked as she travels around discipling women to reclaim God’s design for sexuality and intimacy. Juli is a wife, a mom, a clinical psychologist, an author, host of the Java with Juli podcast and co-founder of the Authentic Intimacy ministry. She knows her stuff!
I love that from the first chapter Juli makes it clear that “your sexuality is inseparable from your spirituality.” Learning how to have great sex is as much about learning how to be intimate with God as anything else. We have to stop treating sex as just a physical thing and realize the power that it holds in all areas of our life.
She describes us needing a paradigm shift in our thinking because sex is connected to the Gospel. Juli’s call to sexual discipleship, yielding our sexuality to God, is universal. As a result, Juli’s book addresses questions for both single and married women. Issues of purity, temptation and forgiveness are not tied to our marital status.
Juli unapologetically uses God’s Word as her measure for what is good and right. She does not take privilege in expressing her opinion but gracefully points to God’s truth and design throughout the book. In the gray areas, like masturbation, she presents some different thoughts on the matter to get you thinking, but ultimately leaves it up to you and God. She points to James 1:5 that says, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” In other words, if you aren’t sure about something, pray about it, and God will make it abundantly clear. Amen, sister!
From dating to porn to breaking free from shame to homosexuality to finding the time and energy to have sex, Juli succinctly covers a swath of issues. Her answers are both practical and theologically sound. Every topic is addressed in light of the question “How do I glorify God through my sexuality?” She gives you enough Scripture references to dig deeper on your own and guides you to more questions to ask if something peaks your interest.
Juli freely shares her own journey and challenges in getting sex right. Sex is hard and it is a process of trial and error, intentional growth steps and God’s revelation. Great sex does not just happen. Recognizing it takes work, gives us the courage to step out and try. Kudos to Juli for letting us in on the secret that she does not have it all together either.
Juli’s honest and relatable approach makes her book easy to read. You can take it one question at a time or breeze through the book in an evening. It’s enjoyable – like having a conversation with a lovely and really smart friend. You can read the book on your own or consider using it as a conversation starter with friends or your spouse.
Ultimately, this is a book about following God – about following God even in your sexuality. God wants good for you. He wants to heal you. He wants to show you what intimacy is about and it is not always easy. Do you trust Him?
You want to read it now, don’t you? Well, it’s your lucky day! We have generously been given one copy of Juli’s book to give away. The giveaway will be simple: Leave a comment below on our blog and tell us one question that you have about sex or intimacy.
We will close this giveaway on Sunday, December 20th, at 11:59pm CST. One entry per person please. The winner will be randomly drawn and notified via email. THIS GIVEAWAY IS CLOSED.
Note: Other than each of us receiving a complimentary copy of her book, we did not receive any compensation for this review. We simply read the book and really liked it. We think you will too!