I have this theory that the way we have sex – the positions we use, the words we speak, the environment we create, or how we hold each other – ought to express who we are at that moment in time. If sex is about getting to “know” each other, than what we do during sex needs to say something about us – not just something about our overall character – like we are an introvert, a clean freak or dramatic. Sex ought to express what kind of day we had or how we are feeling at that moment, or what we desperately need. If we used no words at all during sex, could our spouse tell –
- if we had a good day or bad day?
- if we were feeling playful or sensuous?
- if we were insecure or confident?
I think part of the reason sex can become boring is because we just go thru the motions. It is as if we are talking to our husband and we just keep saying the same sentence over and over, with the same tone of voice and with the same expression on our face. We already know what we are going to say and so does he.
Next Thursday we begin a series of articles about positions – intercourse positions, oral sex positions, manual sex positions, foreplay and whatever else we can think of. Our goal is not to just describe the physical placement or alignment of body parts but to tie the position to different emotions and expressions. Feel free to send us suggestions of what you want covered. We want to explore and stretch you in how to reveal yourself to your spouse. Some things are just too hard to put into words – or maybe words are just inadequate – but I think God gave us the gift of sex as a supernatural way to communicate. So let’s start communicating.