Many women describe orgasms from masturbation or manual stimulation as their most physically intense and well defined orgasm. Because there is less distraction than during intercourse, women can focus on what they feel and experience. Hands and fingers provide plenty of clitoral stimulation and orgasms can top the charts. But sometimes it’s hard finding a comfortable manual stimulation position.
Instead of feeling guilty that orgasms during intercourse are not as strong, what if wives shared the amazing experience of manual orgasms with their husband? What if an orgasm was so strong that a husband could see or feel pelvic floor muscles contract? Wouldn’t that be awesome.
I think that many manual stimulation positions can feel awkward. Somehow it seems like the husband’s hand is always in the wrong position. Tired wrists and weird angles can make it hard for a husband to get the hang of things. Recently we stumbled on a manual stimulation position that felt very natural and connecting.
Of course, smooth hands, lots of lube and connected movements are a given. See my article on Rubbing vs Feeling – Manual Stimulation
Get into Position
To get in the Woven Together position, spoon with the wife in front, but with the her hips rotated so she is lying more on her back. The husband can wrap one arm under her neck to gain access to her breasts. The upper arm can wrap around and drape onto her vulva. His hand should gently rest on her body. Basically, Woven Together puts his hand in the position of where her hand would naturally fall. The wife can leave things to her husband or she can naturally intertwine her hand with his to provide some guidance. Gently turning her head will provide access for kissing and talking.
Woven Together is a position that feels natural to many women. It provides connection and warmth while giving the husband great access. Give it a try. Show your husband what works. Let him feel your body.