One of the questions I ask women during class is, “What is something romantic that your husband could plan for you?”
I’ve heard all kinds of answers but was totally caught off guard when one woman said,
“Honestly, if I could just have some time alone – with no kids, no husband and no expectations.”
Pretty soon more women were jumping on board and sharing how even though they love it when their husband plans a special date, it always feels like it comes with strings attached. Instead of enjoying the night and being thankful for a husband that wants to romance them, they dread what is next.
How sad is that! Our husband tries to do something nice and we spend our night thinking, “Darn, he is going to expect sex tonight.”
We kind of do it to ourselves I suppose…
We say that we need all of these things to feel loved and emotionally connected to our husband before we can enjoy sex. Then when he does them, we either come through with the deal that we have brokered, or we recant and risk that our husband will just give up. Ahhh – the pickle we put ourselves in.
Anyway, the women and I spent some time brainstorming…because sometimes we do just need some alone time or to simply change things up. We came up with a couple of date ideas that might be just what your wife would love….
Refreshment and then REFRESHMENT
After booking a room at a nearby hotel, the husband would stay back with the kids for the afternoon while the wife gets away for a few hours of quiet time and solitude. In the evening, the husband could join the wife by bringing some great take-out food to enjoy together at the hotel, or pick her up for a hot night on the town. The rest of the night can be enjoyed together skin to skin.
The Pick Up
The husband would send the wife out for a fun date on the town with her girlfriends for a couple of hours. At the prearranged time and location, the husband would show up at the other end of the bar or restaurant to enjoy viewing his wife from afar. Eventually he would make eye contact and in appreciation of how beautiful she is, send a drink her way. After some more visual enjoyment from afar and flirting with his eyes, he would ask to take her somewhere new – maybe dancing, to park and make out, or to a hotel for a prearranged rendezvous of fun.
Plan something different – not the same old same old.