I have this friend that prays,
“God help me to be interruptible.”
She wants to live so in tune to God, that if He calls her to stop and pray with someone, or help someone in need, she will do it. She will put aside her own plans, her own agenda, trust that God has something for her and step into it. It’s not an easy thing to do, to be interruptible. It takes living in a way, that you hear God throughout your day. You have to let go of control and your own agenda. It takes being flexible, and spontaneous and it takes trusting God.
If our relationship with God mirrors intimacy in marriage…
Then shouldn’t the same be true in marriage and in sex. Aren’t we supposed to be interruptible.
In Song of Songs 5:2-7 in the wee hours of the morning, he comes knocking on her door, asking her to open to him. She hastily replies, I’ve already washed my feet and am settled in bed, must I get up again? By the time she comes around, he has given up and has left.
The timeless issue of a husband approaching his wife for sex, at not the best time. We are tired and need our sleep. Consumed with washing the dishes. Distracted by a big work project the next day and totally stressed. Our favorite reality TV show is on. It doesn’t matter why, but sex is nowhere on our radar… And then our husband reaches for us.
Will we hear him? …That he feels lonely or disconnected, that he wants to commune with us? Can we put aside our own agenda and step into something that we did not expect? Will we trust that God will get our bodies on board and that He will take care of the rest.
Maybe God is teaching us something by learning how to get on board with our husband. Maybe he is teaching us to let go of control. To trust him, to stop worrying. To make connection more important then getting stuff done. Maybe he is going to show us something new that we might have missed out on otherwise.