If you want your husband to experience something completely new, try giving him a frenulum orgasm. It will not only be amazing for him, but it will help him understand what it is like for you to experience a clitoral orgasm.
Where is the Frenulum
The frenulum is located on the underside of the penis in the Vee shaped area, where the head of the penis meets the shaft. Just like the frenulum that attaches your lip to your gum, there is a thin band of tissue that acts as a sort of attachment between the foreskin and the penis. Whether your husband is circumcised or not, most of the sensitive nerves still remain. Many people know that the frenulum is an especially sweet area packed with nerves but until I read an article at Married Christian Sex, I had no idea a man could have an orgasm from stimulation of just the frenulum.
Learning to Relax
In order for a husband to experience a frenulum orgasm, he must be patient. Stimulating this sensitive area is very different from a firm hand, mouth or vagina encompassing his penis. He will experience strong sensations of pleasure with no way of driving to the finish line. He will need to relax his body and allow the gradual build up of pleasure to eventually overtake him. Keeping his pelvic muscles relaxed will be critical to the slow build up. He must trust his body and he must trust that you won’t give up on him.
Stimulating the Frenulum
To stimulate the frenulum you could use your mouth, the tip of your nose, your finger, your thumb or a vibrator. There should be no opposing force on the other side of the shaft. You can either let the penis rest against his abdomen or hold it at the base. The motion to the frenulum can be slow and luxurious, light and playful, connected, bouncing, brisk or anything else you can think of. Probably one of the best ideas is to just think of what would feel good on your clitoris and try it. Be patient, change things up, notice when he is enjoying things and have fun.
Your husband may very well struggle with some of the same things you struggle with during manual or oral stimulation of your clitoris. He may worry that it is taking too long. He may feel frustrated or struggle to stay relaxed. He may worry that you are getting tired or bored, or worry that he is not going to make it. Sounds familiar, right? Be sure to reassure him how much you are enjoying it and that he has all the time in the world. He gets to just lay back and relax.
When your husband has a frenulum orgasm, it may feel different than what he is used to. The pleasure comes from a very focused area, and he may feel hypersensitive or like it is too much. To extend his orgasm, try to stay gently connected and continue to stimulate him.
If you are going to try giving your husband a frenulum orgasm, you might need to prepare him. Read this article together and talk. Allow lots of time and enjoy the journey. Remember, if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.