Women tend to think about oral sex for their husband in terms of in and out movement. A hand or mouth that encompasses the shaft, sliding up and down from the base of the penis, across the ridge to the head, and then back again. It is the typical motion that most men use to create pleasure themselves. Though highly pleasurable and efficient, I want to share some ideas to mix things up a bit, extend pleasure, and expand his horizons.
First a couple of details.
If your husband does not groom himself by shaving or trimming his hair, you might suggest he start. Gagging on a long hair caught on the back of your throat is not exactly sexy. His fresh showering and attention to detail can set you loose to enjoy his body more.
Second, if your husband is used to going directly from point A to point B, you might need to prepare him. Communicate that you want to experiment and try some new things. His only job is to relax, give you feedback and enjoy the ride. Assure him that you will not leave him hanging and that he can trust you. Exude care, confidence and enthusiasm for your exploration. Now onto the moves…
After you warm him up, encompass him with your mouth. Take your tongue and swirl it around the ridge of his penis a few times without moving in and out. He will feel the variation of texture from rougher surface of the top of your tongue, to the silky-smooth underside. Then begin long slow strokes again with your mouth but just as you begin the turn to stroke back down his penis, pause just enough to swirl around the entire ridge. Don’t be in a hurry, just set up a nice easy rhythm. Down stroke. Up stroke. Swirl. Down stroke, Upstroke, Swirl, Down stroke…. Once in a while add variety by changing things up a bit, but then come back to the swirl with a little more intensity. If he’s patient and enjoying the ride you can finish this way. If you sense frustration, move to a stronger stimulation by adding a hand to help him finish.
Skipping a beat
During typical oral sex, usually you establish a steady rhythm of stimulation, often tied to the in and out of movement. To change things up, try skipping a beat, like in music when suddenly the the beat of the bridge changes.
Warm him up, and get him to a place of high arousal where you want him to just sit for a while. Rather than pushing to the end, switch things up a bit and let it come to him. Keep exactly the same rhythm but instead of out in, out in, out in…try out in pause pause, out in pause pause, out in pause pause. During the pause, you should encompass him with your mouth. Hold him firmly and see if you can feel him ache for you. You can finish him this way, or when you move back to every beat, he probably won’t last long.
Testicles and hand stroke
Testicles tend to be pretty finicky, kind of like our breasts. Your husband will need to be thoroughly warmed up, and even then, not all men may like to have their testicles
played with. But if he does, try gently taking them into your mouth one at a time while just holding the base of his penis. If he gets really turned on, he make ask you to stroke his penis with your hand while gently caressing his testicles with your mouth.
Some men like to have their penis gently banged around when they are highly aroused. It is just a different kind of stimulation to contrast with connected movements. Like adding some crunchy nuts to add texture to a cream filled cake. These are the sparkles that wake our body to enjoy the main plays even more.
While holding his shaft, you could move it back and forth to gently whack against your mouth or tongue. You could stick your tongue out and gently move your head from side to side to kind of slap him. Or, straddle him and glide his penis on your clitoris to create pleasure for both of you. Adding texture and variety to contrast the in and out, will entice him to enjoy your coreplay moves even more.
Ring hold combo
A mouth provides this lovely warm, smooth chamber of goodness for a man’s penis, but sometimes a man needs things stepped up a notch. A great finishing move is to use the focused pressure of a ring hold slowly surging up the shaft. Warm him up with your mouth, by establishing a good rhythm with your mouth. Play around and have some fun. When you get close, hold the base of his penis with just your index finger and thumb making a ring around his penis. At the right time, slowly follow your mouth with your hand and pull a wave of goodness up. Release pressure to take your hand back to the base and start another cycle. Hold your mouth around the head of his penis and use your ring hold up to ripple to the top.
Five ideas to spur on your imagination as you discover what he enjoys. Pausing to swirl, skipping a beat, suckling his testicles, banging him around a bit and creating a surge with a ring hold. Anyone else have ideas to share. Keep it respectful and don’t personalize it. For example…. “Some men like ….”