Keeping Sex Fresh – Ideas to Add Some Spice

Song of Songs 1:16-2:1

How handsome you are, my beloved!
    Oh, how charming!
    And our bed is verdant

The beams of our house are cedars;
    our rafters are firs.

 I am a rose of Sharon,
    a lily of the valleys. 

Our bed is verdant?

I wonder what that means

ver·dant – adjective –  (of countryside) green with grass or other rich vegetation – synonyms – green, leafy, luxuriant, overgrown, lush

So we are to have a bed that is covered in fresh grass. Makes perfect sense to me!

We are to have a bed that is growing, that has not turned to weeds, that is freshly watered, and living.

10 ideas to Keep Your Sex Life Fresh.

  1. Have sex with soft lights on and as much eye to eye contact as you can possibly stand.
  2. Take charge and see how long you can keep your husbands peaches ripe before he finishes.
  3. Have sex in the middle of the day.
  4. Ask your husband to blindfold you and trust him to take you somewhere as you let go of the control.
  5. Use your words to seduce your husband. In the morning, whisper in his ear explicitly what you would like him to do to you that night, or text him during the day.
  6. Wear a new outfit to bed and reveal it seductively.
  7. Spend a night sleeping skin to skin, lip to lip, with absolutely no agenda.
  8. If you’ve never used a toy in bed, give it a try. If you always use a toy, leave it aside and explore each other in a fresh way.
  9. Play some music that will set the tone for the night.
  10. In some small way talk to each other during sex to make contact



Comments 2

  1. Ruth
    This series is hitting us at a time when we can really use the encouragement to put effort into “really making love” or making sex exciting. Enthusiasm is, I think perhaps the most important ingredient in good lovemaking. Thanks so much for the list today and this series. I want to print them all out and put them in booklet form for future reference.

    Today I read most of this list to my wife before my 16-year-old daughter, (youngest in family) walked in. When I read “so we are to have a bed that is covered in fresh grass. Makes perfect sense to me.” She was sure I added that last phrase. 

    We laughed because I am the adventuresome one and we’ve done it on the green grass and a lot of other fun places besides our wonderful bed. A Favorite of mine is on freshly raked or just baled hay. I stack the large 800lb bales with a loader carefully stacking them in such a manner that we can crawl up there and have a nice soft place to lay. All that’s needed is a blanket.

    I would like to suggest and 11th one and a challenge to all truly married couples. Send each other a fantasy of yours every day by text till valentine’s day or longer. One of mind was No 4, to blindfold her and take over with lots of surprises and pleasure mostly involving a new paint brush and some oil. Imagine that. Also really liked 2,3, and 6 and 7. They are all so exciting to me.

    Can’t wait. I am really getting excited.

  2. When reviewing lists like this, I would be curious as to how many of your readers enjoy increased pace (intensity) as a way of variety. That is, not just going a bit harder, but truly kicking it up a few notches to where the intent is to get pounded or do the pounding.

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