Song of Songs 2:14
My dove in the clefts of the rock,
in the hiding places on the mountainside,
show me your face,
let me hear your voice;
for your voice is sweet,
and your face is lovely.
Let me hear your voice, for your voice is sweet.
Sometimes the tone of our voice can express more than the words that we say.
Last year I led a women’s bible study on marriage and one of the weeks was titled Godly Communication. During the class, I asked a couple of women to come up and simply ask the question, “Can you take out the trash?” I gave them cards to inspire the tone of their voice, such as disdain, disrespect, frustrated, belittling, neutral, and be my hero. The rest of the class was than asked to interpret their attitude. You would be amazed at how well they communicated their attitude, just through the tone of their voice!
We must search our attitude and our heart before we speak to our spouse, because whether you say it with words or not, they will hear your attitude. Your husband will hear if you think he is your hero, or if he already has failed you, when you ask for help. He will hear whether you respect him, or if you think that you know all the right answers. He will hear whether you look forward to being with him, or you are just checking another thing off of your to do list.
Is your voice sweet? Does your spouse look forward to what you have to say?
Put It Into Action
- Search your heart for bitterness, disrespect, or disdain for your husband. Pray about the source, what you can change about yourself, and practical ways to see your spouse in a different light.
- Record yourself speaking, or try to get outside of yourself to hear what your tone of voice sounds like. Do you speak to your spouse as nice as you would speak to a friend?
- Make your husband feel like your hero when you ask for something.