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How to Help Your Wife Orgasm During Intercourse

It takes two to tango – and it takes two to work towards having an orgasm during intercourse. My husband was a huge part of my learning to have an orgasm during intercourse. He gave me permission and encouraged me to take control of the movement so that I could figure out what felt good. His increased control of ejaculation allowed me plenty of time to experiment. He learned my orgasm triggers so that he could use them at just the right time. Most importantly, he made sure that I was never left hanging after intercourse so that every experience was positive. A sensitive, caring husband can make intercourse enjoyable whether their wife orgasms or not.

Although this article could be helpful for anyone, it is part of a series “How to have an orgasm during intercourse”. If you are working towards that goal, please make sure that you read my previous articles The Big Question, His and Her Kegels ,Talk about What?,Flexibility Training,and Different Pathways

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by Ruth Buezis March 30, 2015

His and Her Kegels

If you want to experience an orgasm during intercourse, there is no better place to start than for both you and your husband to become more aware of your own bodies, and to have more control over them. So today I will outline for both of you the reasons to do kegels, how to do them, and to how make it a part of your day.

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by Ruth Buezis February 23, 2015

IF – The Game Changer

During my women’s class Awaken Love , I ask the question, “What gets you in the mood?”

I’ve heard everything from “nothing” to “a glass of wine” to “praying with my husband” to “my husband cleaning the toilet”. There are as many answers as there are women in the world, but there is a common thread I hear over and over that husbands need to understand.

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by Ruth Buezis January 25, 2015

WEEKLY MISSION #13

I had an interesting conversation the other day.

I was talking to one of my husbands friends about possibly attending my class for the men and he said,’If everything works, why do I need to worry about learning something new?” I was a little shocked, because I always figure just the opposite, ” there is always something new to learn.”

Now to be fair, this is probably the typical answer for most men. It comes from the foundational truth that most men cling to, “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.”

What men may not realize, is that women are like this complicated stereo component. You can either listen to it, with all the knobs randomly set to the neutral position, and have adequate sound. Or you can learn what all the knobs actually do, and dial them into each song for the ultimate music.

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by Ruth Buezis December 18, 2014

How to love your wife with oral sex

Many of these concepts are based on Ian Kerner’s She Comes First: The thinking man’s guide to pleasuring a woman

After teaching over 500 women about sex, it is clear that most wives have the same insecurity, “Does he really want to be down there.” Husbands, you need to know that wives have a terrible time believing that you like the taste, your neck isn’t in knots, and that you aren’t just doing it because we want you to.

Your wife needs to know that you enjoy giving her oral sex, and the only way she will know, is if you tell her. You will need to tell her time and time again, because the same insecurity will show its head over, and over, and over…

If you have ever viewed oral sex in pornography, then erase every image and memory, because what real women enjoy is nothing like what you have seen.

Now, if you haven’t read my article on “Rubbing vs. Feeling – Manual stimulation” a couple of weeks ago, then go back and read it before you go any further, because the same concepts apply to oral sex.

God wants husbands and wives to “know” each other through sex. Your intuitive wife will know whether you are just wildly flicking your tongue around trying to get something to work, or if you are actually present, feeling her through your tongue, sensing the changes to her body, and taking her somewhere.

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by Ruth Buezis November 16, 2014

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How to Help Your Wife Orgasm During Intercourse