Is Giving Oral Sex Arousing for You?

Men love oral sex but I think their enjoyment is amplified multiple times when we enjoy it too – and I don’t just mean because we like to give them oral sex. I mean we enjoy it – like it turns us on and it arouses us. When we can orgasm while giving them oral sex – well that might just be one of their ultimate enjoyments.  So how do we get to the place that we not only love giving oral sex, but that we find giving oral sex arousing?

If you want ideas on giving your husband oral sex, then please take a look at my articles How to Drive Your Man Crazy, How to Love Your Husband with Oral Sex and His Amazing Body.

This article is going to focus on how to get aroused while giving your husband oral sex.

Our Mind – It always begins in the mind, doesn’t it ladies. We have to believe that visually feasting on our husband close up, sensing the changes in his body through sensitive tongues or lips, and loving him with our entire body is so very good. We have to believe that our husband does not just want oral sex because he saw it somewhere, but that loving him through oral sex is an intimate connection that somehow makes him feel loved as we show our full acceptance and embodiment of him. We have to believe that God gives us the freedom to fully enjoy each other, however we want, and that he is pleased when we receive the gifts he gave us to intimately connect.

Connection – Sex is not just supposed to be two parallel people getting satisfied to the point of orgasm. Sex is supposed to be a window to see into each other’s souls in the most intimate way.  We have to intentionally maintain connection during sex rather than going into our own world. Keeping your eyes open, or speaking short phrases to draw each other back can help maintain the connection. Seeing my husband experience pleasure as he watches what I create for him ought to excite me. He is letting me into his inner places and sharing intimate parts of himself.  Are you maintaining connection during oral sex? Does it excite you when he shows you his excitement?

Training – One of the foundational things I believe about sex is that our bodies can learn new things. We can teach our bodies through positive reinforcement and connections with pleasure. We must  connect arousal and pleasure with giving our husband oral sex. While you are giving your husband oral sex, you might grab his hands and bring them to  your breasts. You could change your position and bring his fingers to your clitoris. Little by little begin to associate pleasure with giving oral sex.

Movement – One the things that I am becoming aware of is the power of movement to take us places. While you are giving your husband oral sex, let your body move like it wants to. Just the thrusting of your hips can create arousal. Or try straddling his leg and rubbing your body on him. Or take a break with your mouth and drag your breast on his penis to create enjoyment. Get into a rhythm that takes you somewhere through  movement and sync it to the movement that drives him crazy.

Aids – Using toys during oral sex can create the stimulation to take you over the top while you pleasure him with oral sex. You will realize how much your arousal excites your husband and that is exciting. When you are connected, his excitement will feed on your excitement which will in turn feed your excitement.

Giving our husband oral sex is supposed to be this amazing way that we connect, close up and personal. It ought to excite us as we see just how amazing our husbands body is and how excited he gets. Do we allow ourselves to really enjoy just how erotic giving oral sex can be? Do we allow our excitement to feed off of their excitement? Do we seek pleasure and enjoyment and go after it, even in the midst of loving our husband? Consider what a thrill it would be for your husband to see your thrill in the midst of loving him.

Frenulum Orgasm – A New Delight for Him

If you want your husband to experience something completely new, try giving him a frenulum orgasm. It will not only be amazing for him, but it will help him understand what it is like for you to experience a clitoral orgasm.

The frenulum is located on the underside of the penis in the Vee shaped area, where the head of the penis meets the shaft. Just like the frenulum that attaches your lip to your gum, there is a thin band of tissue that acts as a sort of attachment between the foreskin and the penis. Whether your husband is circumcised or not, most of  the sensitive nerves still remain. Many people know that the frenulum is an especially sweet area packed with nerves but until I read an article at Married Christian Sex, I had no idea a man could have an orgasm from stimulation of just the frenulum.

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Helping with Struggles

Whatever struggle or frustration we face in our marriage bed impacts both of us.

Just like you would want your husband to be part of the solution when you have trouble reaching orgasm, we need to be part of the solution when our husband wants to last longer, or has a hard time keeping his erection.

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New Territory

The Perineum, commonly called the taint is the territory between his testicles and his anus. It may be an area where a husband is very aware of the possibilities of pleasure or has absolutely no clue what he is missing out on. It is our privilege to help him discover just how amazing his body is.

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WHAT IN THE WORLD DO I DO WITH THESE?

I have to admit, out of all the areas of my husband’s body, the testicles are probably one of the most confusing and mysterious to me. I was really never quite sure what I was supposed to do with them, but lately I feel like I am getting a little more of a handle on it, so I thought I would share what I have discovered.

First, in order for you to have full access and enjoy the experience, your husband should be freshly bathed. It would also be really helpful if he does a little grooming in that area. He could simply use a hair clipper to trim – think ¼ to ½ inches long – or he could carefully trim the hair with scissors.

two-ripe-peachesSong of Songs 7:13 – And the finest fruits are at our door, new delights as well as old.

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HIS AMAZING BODY

The more I get to know my husband’s body, the more I find it absolutely AMAZING!

For the next 3 weeks we are going to spend time getting to know our husband’s body.

Song of Songs 5:14  His body is like polished ivory
    decorated with sapphires.

ivory tuskThe penis is probably the most prominent part of our husband’s body and it is most closely associated with what it means to be a man. When it is cooperating it is their pride and joy, but when it is not, it can create anxiety that snow balls into greater anxiety. Men worry over not lasting long enough, or getting or maintaining an erection. Their erect penis is their greatest joy or their greatest defeat.

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HOW TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND WITH ORAL SEX

This is a detailed guide in how to pleasure your husband with oral sex and is part of my curriculum ,How to drive your man crazy. 

It can take time to get comfortable loving your husband with oral sex. Start slow and just get to know him. Spend time touching him, kissing him, watching him and licking him.  Lube him up with coconut oil so that you can combine hand work with your mouth. If you mouth starts feeling tense, use your hand and relax your jaw. If you are uncomfortable taking him deep, combine your hand with the motion of your mouth.  You should always feel in control of what is going on. Ultimately it is just a way to know your husband up close and personal. Try to relax and focus on feeling every fiber of his body.

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