I have a confession to make. …

Last year as I was writing the LIVE THE SONG series, I got to  Song of Songs 6:10-12, and I totally came up empty. I had nothing. I had no idea what it meant and how to apply it so…

I left it out. I just skipped it and figured that no one would notice. But a few months later I got this email….

Hi Ruth
I have loved every one of your posts featuring Song of Songs and have read them many times over. Sad when I got the last one. I seem to be missing 6:10-12.
I have searched your blog several times and can’t seem to locate it.
Was this published? Help!
Thanks so much.

My first reaction was – how awesome that someone was actually reading Live the Song.

My second thought was – How embarrassing – Now I have to admit that I skipped a section.

So here is my best attempt…

Song of Songs 6:10-12


10 Who is this that appears like the dawn,
    fair as the moon, bright as the sun,
    majestic as the stars in procession?


11 I went down to the grove of nut trees
    to look at the new growth in the valley,
to see if the vines had budded
    or the pomegranates were in bloom.
12 Before I realized it,
    my desire set me among the royal chariots of my people.

I have to be honest…. I’m still not sure what to do with it. Sometimes when I read the Bible, I immediately know what it means. Other times, I chew on it for a while, or wrestle with it, and God gives me what I need. But sometimes, there are passages that I never  understand. They are a mystery – and that’s ok. God is way beyond my comprehension and reality, and I will never understand everything about what He does or how He works.

Just because I cannot make sense of every detail of the Bible,  I can make sense of part of it and I hold onto it. Don’t give up on God because you don’t understand everything about Him – ground yourself in what you do know…

  • He loves you
  • He is good
  • He is powerful
  • He is just
  • He redeems us
  • He is all knowing and we are not

Don’t give up on Song of Songs because parts of it are confusing. Take what speaks to you and put it into action. There are pictures of what intimacy looks like that are timeless.

  • The role of husband and wife in the marriage bed should be as equals
  • Stretch in using your words to express your love
  • Use all 5 of your senses to experience each other
  • Be creative and plan adventure
  • Insecurities of body image and feeling loved are a battle for women
  • Husbands adoring eyes and words build their wife’s confidence
  • God blesses our marriages and our marriage bed

Don’t give up on your spouse because you do not understand everything about them. Ground your self in what you do know…

  • God has made the two of you into one
  • Your spouse is broken just like you are
  • Your spouse cannot meet all your needs
  • Your spouse needs grace and love and encouragement to be the man or woman that God created them to be

So this week – in honor of being “Busted” 

  1. Read a passage in the Bible that you don’t understand with your spouse and ask them for insight or ideas.
  2. Share something with your spouse that you don’t understand about them and reaffirm your commitment and love
  3. Play cops and robbers in bed!!!

Ruth Buezis



Song of Songs 8:13-14


13 You who dwell in the gardens
    with friends in attendance,
    let me hear your voice!


14 Come away, my beloved,
    and be like a gazelle
or like a young stag
    on the spice-laden mountain


The end of the year – the end of a series. 



Song of Songs 8:10-12


10 I am a wall,
    and my breasts are like towers.
Thus I have become in his eyes
    like one bringing contentment.
11 Solomon had a vineyard in Baal Hamon;
    he let out his vineyard to tenants.
Each was to bring for its fruit
    a thousand shekels of silver.
12 But my own vineyard is mine to give;
    the thousand shekels are for you, Solomon,
    and two hundred are for those who tend its fruit.

But my own vineyard is mine to give.

The other night I was teaching Awaken Love MEN’S EDITION Week 3 which is all about how a woman’s body works. Midway thru the night, I asked the men, “Can you make your wife have an orgasm?”



Song of Songs 


We have a little sister,
    and her breasts are not yet grown.
What shall we do for our sister
    on the day she is spoken for? 

If she is a wall,
    we will build towers of silver on her.
If she is a door,
    we will enclose her with panels of cedar.

What shall we do for our sister?

If she protects herself, we will reward her.

If she is loose, we will build walls around her – to help protect her.

These friends were actively involved in helping their sister stay pure.

In this day and age, odds are stacked against people staying pure until marriage. Pornography is rampant, casual encounters are the norm, and remaining pure is just plain crazy. We live in a society that is about instant gratification and getting what you want. The average age for girls to marry is now 27, and that is a long time to wait.



Song of Songs 8:5-7


Who is this coming up from the wilderness
    leaning on her beloved?


Under the apple tree I roused you;
    there your mother conceived you,
    there she who was in labor gave you birth.
Place me like a seal over your heart,
    like a seal on your arm;
for love is as strong as death,
    its jealousy unyielding as the grave.
It burns like blazing fire,
    like a mighty flame.
Many waters cannot quench love;
    rivers cannot sweep it away.
If one were to give
    all the wealth of one’s house for love,
    it would be utterly scorned.


Love Is….



Song of Songs 8:2-4


I would lead you
  and bring you to my mother’s house—
    she who has taught me.
I would give you spiced wine to drink,
    the nectar of my pomegranates.
His left arm is under my head
    and his right arm embraces me.
Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you:
    Do not arouse or awaken love
    until it so desires.

His left arm is under my head and his right arm embraces me.

How many different positions does your husband embrace you during sex?

How many ways does he hold you while he strokes your most intimate parts?

How many ways do you connect while he works magic with his hands?



Song of Songs 8:1


If only you were to me like a brother,
    who was nursed at my mother’s breasts!
Then, if I found you outside,
    I would kiss you,
    and no one would despise me.

At first glance, this passage may sound strange, but is quite simple.  At the time this was written, public displays of affection were prohibited between husband and wife. She is simply wishing that she could be more open with when and how she is allowed to kiss her husband.



Song of Songs 7:13


The mandrakes send out their fragrance,

    and at our door is every delicacy,
both new and old,
    that I have stored up for you, my beloved.

Is every delicacy at your door – both new and old.

Having a great sex life is a journey. It is a journey of discovering how our bodies work and how our spouses bodies work. It is a process of building trust and getting comfortable enough to communicate our desires and being bold enough to share our passion. It is a journey of recognizing baggage that has affected us, asking for God’s help in dealing with it and claiming His redemption in our life. It is a lifetime of exploring each other and mining the deepest parts of our lover.



Song of Songs 7:11-12


11 Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside,
    let us spend the night in the villages.[p]
12 Let us go early to the vineyards
    to see if the vines have budded,
if their blossoms have opened,
    and if the pomegranates are in bloom—
    there I will give you my love.

Let us go to the countryside

I love having sex in other locations, but it hasn’t always been that way.

Our family lives in California so we often travel for a week to visit. I used to fret and worry. Would someone hear us? Would they guess if we came down stairs late or slipped away in the middle of the day? Would we mess up the sheets? Sex rarely happened.



Song of Songs 7:9-10


May the wine go straight to my beloved,
    flowing gently over lips and teeth.[o]
10 I belong to my beloved,
    and his desire is for me.

My husband and I have been having the exact same argument for about 5 years. Well actually,  it’s not even an argument. It is me getting upset at him because I start keeping score.