Is Giving Oral Sex Arousing for You?

Men love oral sex but I think their enjoyment is amplified multiple times when we enjoy it too – and I don’t just mean because we like to give them oral sex. I mean we enjoy it – like it turns us on and it arouses us. When we can orgasm while giving them oral sex – well that might just be one of their ultimate enjoyments.  So how do we get to the place that we not only love giving oral sex, but that we find giving oral sex arousing?

If you want ideas on giving your husband oral sex, then please take a look at my articles How to Drive Your Man Crazy, How to Love Your Husband with Oral Sex and His Amazing Body.

This article is going to focus on how to get aroused while giving your husband oral sex.

Our Mind – It always begins in the mind, doesn’t it ladies. We have to believe that visually feasting on our husband close up, sensing the changes in his body through sensitive tongues or lips, and loving him with our entire body is so very good. We have to believe that our husband does not just want oral sex because he saw it somewhere, but that loving him through oral sex is an intimate connection that somehow makes him feel loved as we show our full acceptance and embodiment of him. We have to believe that God gives us the freedom to fully enjoy each other, however we want, and that he is pleased when we receive the gifts he gave us to intimately connect.

Connection – Sex is not just supposed to be two parallel people getting satisfied to the point of orgasm. Sex is supposed to be a window to see into each other’s souls in the most intimate way.  We have to intentionally maintain connection during sex rather than going into our own world. Keeping your eyes open, or speaking short phrases to draw each other back can help maintain the connection. Seeing my husband experience pleasure as he watches what I create for him ought to excite me. He is letting me into his inner places and sharing intimate parts of himself.  Are you maintaining connection during oral sex? Does it excite you when he shows you his excitement?

Training – One of the foundational things I believe about sex is that our bodies can learn new things. We can teach our bodies through positive reinforcement and connections with pleasure. We must  connect arousal and pleasure with giving our husband oral sex. While you are giving your husband oral sex, you might grab his hands and bring them to  your breasts. You could change your position and bring his fingers to your clitoris. Little by little begin to associate pleasure with giving oral sex.

Movement – One the things that I am becoming aware of is the power of movement to take us places. While you are giving your husband oral sex, let your body move like it wants to. Just the thrusting of your hips can create arousal. Or try straddling his leg and rubbing your body on him. Or take a break with your mouth and drag your breast on his penis to create enjoyment. Get into a rhythm that takes you somewhere through  movement and sync it to the movement that drives him crazy.

Aids – Using toys during oral sex can create the stimulation to take you over the top while you pleasure him with oral sex. You will realize how much your arousal excites your husband and that is exciting. When you are connected, his excitement will feed on your excitement which will in turn feed your excitement.

Giving our husband oral sex is supposed to be this amazing way that we connect, close up and personal. It ought to excite us as we see just how amazing our husbands body is and how excited he gets. Do we allow ourselves to really enjoy just how erotic giving oral sex can be? Do we allow our excitement to feed off of their excitement? Do we seek pleasure and enjoyment and go after it, even in the midst of loving our husband? Consider what a thrill it would be for your husband to see your thrill in the midst of loving him.

Frenulum Orgasm – A New Delight for Him

If you want your husband to experience something completely new, try giving him a frenulum orgasm. It will not only be amazing for him, but it will help him understand what it is like for you to experience a clitoral orgasm.

The frenulum is located on the underside of the penis in the Vee shaped area, where the head of the penis meets the shaft. Just like the frenulum that attaches your lip to your gum, there is a thin band of tissue that acts as a sort of attachment between the foreskin and the penis. Whether your husband is circumcised or not, most of  the sensitive nerves still remain. Many people know that the frenulum is an especially sweet area packed with nerves but until I read an article at Married Christian Sex, I had no idea a man could have an orgasm from stimulation of just the frenulum.

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Lazy 69

The traditional 69 position of woman on top, mouth to genitals,  can be challenging to wives for several reasons:

  • it takes a lot of arm strength to hold up her body – especially if she wants to get another hand involved in the action
  • it is hard to stay under the covers on a cold night
  • it can feel as if her rear is literally right in front of her husbands eyes
  • there are few physical points of connection other than mouths on genitals

So here is another position that provides simultaneous oral pleasure, is relaxing for both husband and wife, and provides  loads of skin to skin connection.

The Lazy 69

Align your bodies similar to the traditional 69 position but instead, both of you lay on your side in a gently curled up position. The wife will need to gently spread her legs apart so that the husband can rest his clean shaven cheek on her inner thigh. The wife can either rest her head on the mattress or on a small pillow. Both husband and wife can gently pull the other closer for more intimate contact. In this relaxed position it is easy to stay warm under the covers. Hands can freely be used to stroke, caress  or grasp. If the wife wants more access to his testicles or perineum, she can gently spread his legs.  Bodies can be pulled even closer to gain further access or just to meld bodies together as pleasure mounts.

Take all the time in the world as you explore and enjoy 

The Lazy 69

Ruth Buezis

LIVE THE SONG – His Fruit is Sweet

Song of Songs 1:17-2:3

He

17 The beams of our house are cedars;
    our rafters are firs.

She

2 I am a rose of Sharon,
    a lily of the valleys. 

He

Like a lily among thorns
    is my darling among the young women

She

Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest
    is my beloved among the young men.
I delight to sit in his shade,
    and his fruit is sweet to my taste.

 

Yeah baby! That’s what I’m talking about! Need I say more?

I guess we are going there….

Is his fruit sweet to your taste, or do you cringe at the thought of loving your husband in that way?

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How to love your wife with oral sex

Many of these concepts are based on Ian Kerner’s  She Comes First: The thinking man’s guide to pleasuring a woman

After teaching over 200 women about sex, it is clear that most wives have the same insecurity, “Does he really want to be down there.”  Husbands, you need to know that wives have a terrible time believing that you like the taste, your neck isn’t in knots, and that you aren’t just doing it because we want you to.

Your wife needs to know that you enjoy giving her oral sex, and the only way she will know, is if you tell her. You will need to tell her time and time again, because the same insecurity will show its head over, and over, and over…

If you have ever viewed oral sex in pornography, then erase every image and memory, because what real women enjoy is nothing like what you have seen.

Now, if you haven’t read my article on “Rubbing vs. Feeling – Manual stimulation” a couple of weeks ago, then go back and read it before you go any further, because the same concepts apply to oral sex.

God wants husbands and wives to “know” each other through sex. Your intuitive wife will know whether you are just wildly flicking your tongue around trying to get something to work, or if you are actually present, feeling her through your tongue, sensing the changes to her body, and taking her somewhere.

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Oral Delight

Song of Songs 4:16

Awake, north wind, and come south wind!

Blow on my garden that its fragrance may spread abroad.

Let my love come into his garden and taste its choice fruits

fruit

One of the most intimate ways you can allow your husband to “know you”, is through oral sex. Your husband will see, feel, and even taste you in ways that he has never experienced before.  If you surrender and allow yourself to just receive from you husband, you will experience some of the most delicious orgasms possible.

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